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I wrote in an earlier blog that I wish I had a daughter, thinking it would fill my void in missing my mother and recreate the relationship I am looking for.  I am just wondering if there is any adults out there that either have a daugther and it makes a difference or don't have a daughter and yearn for one.  Am i alone on this?  I feel like a brat when I complain that I don't have a daughter.  I have two beautiful sons and some people can't even have that for one reason or another.  So, I am thankful.  I just feel robbed of the fact that I lost that bond on both ends.

A friend of mine also lost her mom when she was 9.  She has a daughter however, she really wanted boys.  SHe was fearful of having a girl becuase she said she didn't know what to do with her since she really didn't have that when she grew up.  Her memories of her mom are minimal.  I thought this was so weird since i thought all women who lost thier mom would think like me.

My husband truly feels that a girl would not fill the void I have for my mom.  Even if I was to have a girl, he feels that I would still be sad and miss my mom.  So, what is the consenus out there?  I would love to hear your perspectives.